Sunday, August 16, 2015

So many tidbits

So many things, so many little things, so many important little things going on, I just have to write, lest I forget!

Ada: She's an eager little Catholic. Let's backtrack a month or two to when she'd scream and point as I received the Eucharist. She's matured to walking in the Communion line, crossing her arms, looking content with herself, and genuflecting when leaving the pew. It's pretty much the cutest 10 minutes of Mass. She also makes the Sign of the Cross for Grace. With food in her hand while chewing, but she bows her head. It might rest on the edge of the table, but she bows her head and puts her little, sticky hands together. She's also a humming fanatic, up to almost more songs than I can keep track of: around 15 or so now. She can copy just about anything, and I've even caught her humming a Copland piece that Paul's taken to. She's starting to show some caution where caution's due, like moving well back from the oven when I go to open it or rushing to something stable to hold on to when she hears loud rumbles outside (usually just a truck or motorbike). She's not scared but unsure. She's also much more into reading and books than when she was smaller, which is wonderful! I'd wondered all sorts of things: am I not reading to her enough as an infant (like I could with Paul) because she's #2, is it just personality, what if she doesn't like to read, etc. She'll whack us with a special book of her choosing first thing in the morning, and there's nothing better in the world to do than take the (like, 2mins) time to read her a little board book. All that goes out the window when it's nap time, and we're reading a book that Paul picked. Then she's just a whiney wiggle-worm who wants down. She loves food. All food, but most especially blueberries, oatmeal, and cottage cheese all right now first thing in the morning. Must. have. blueberriesoatmeal&cheese.

Paul: He's a good little Catholic, too. He sings the Our Father with us every night, and he even stops mid-bite to put food down before saying Grace at mealtime. He builds crosses with his building blocks, saying "Look, I made this for Jesus!" Makes me laugh a little, like, welllll, very nice sentiment, and, yes, you're right in handing Jesus his cross, but I wonder if He'd accept the gift with a loving smile (of course) or a little begrudgingly... Anyway. He's matured into pronouncing "I've dot peace -ike a river" while singing instead of "Abba peeeace wike a wivver", so that's happening. Paul also is fully adept in dressing and undressing himself; shirts over the head were that last puzzle piece. And he is an absolute fish in the pool. He loves swimming, specifically jumping and swimming to us. He's under for a good few seconds, and he kicks and scoops and comes up smiling. Wears us both out! Then there are his questions: Why do Papas go to work for much of the time? Why do my teeth break my carrots? Why does my (thermochromatic) straw turn all purple but stay blue at the top (where his lips are)? There are so many awesome ones, I wish I could remember them all.

Next. We bought a house! We've been in it for just over a year already, so it may have been anticlimactic to come home and pop the champagne in an orderly living room, but moving is so stressful; I'll take anticlimactic over stressful any day. Yes, it's really exciting. Yes, it's a big opportunity. Yes, we wanted to do it. But somehow the "congrats" seem really funny. Congrats, now you owe a ton of money! Congrats, now you have an endless to-do list! Congrats, now you have to fix the power yourselves when it goes out! Congrats, you now own a mortgage! That last one was a for-real thing in the mail. It's just funny. Am I alone in seeing the humor there? I guess there's no other sentiment to share with someone. Mom and Dad sent us a card that had a doormat saying Welcome Home; that's appropriate! We celebrated with dinner at Galatoire's in the Quarter and going over to Ship Island, MS the next day -- the kids love the beach.


And then this + that photo up there of Paul, which was also post-beach:
Finally, a friend is shifting from full-time stay-at-home-momming to part-time work outside the home. She's been perfectly content, happy even, being at home, and she openly shares that she feels it's been the right thing for her & children. She's well-educated & qualified & & &, and then someone sought her out, interviewed her, and offered her the job all within a week or so. She's accepted, and she's excited about this new shift, happy that it's part-time, and hopeful about the balance it will bring her own sense of well-being. All of that is wonderful, and I've encouraged her to pray about it and follow her heart from the time she first told me. It's 2 comments on her facebook thread that got me thinking about what I want (... and how I have it!) How what we want really is different, with no single right way to go about balancing parenting & working. Two working moms chimed in to congratulate this friend on her job offer, naming one small thing they like about being working-moms. 1. No one talks to me while drinking my morning coffee. 2. No one wants to go to the bathroom with me at work. Encouraging, I get it, and true, too; but not what I want. Those words, twice, no one, really hit me. I want someone to talk to me over my coffee that gets cold. Yes, of course there are times when I would love to drink it up hot but not enough to exchange the squeaky voices and spills. A little privacy in the bathroom is also nice; not what I want. I want someone to miss me so badly for the 1 minute it's taken him (or her, at the moment!) to notice I went missing that s/he comes in grinning, showing me a toy. In fact, I've just started announcing when I'm going so as to avoid the "Mama! Where are you!" shouts, and we all just go together. Perhaps I'm naïvely thinking Little Miss will get even more interested than she already is in what's going on. (Sidenote: she sits on the toilet. Just to sit. "Do you want to tinkle?" "Mmhm." <2 seconds> "Done?" "Mmhm.") Parents have different reasons for choosing to work or choosing to stay with the kids, and maybe it's that what my work would be isn't invaluable like some professions; but there would have to be a pretty unique set of circumstances for me to accept a position at NinetoFive again. - - - Then I shared some of these thoughts with Dylan. He's nodding, and mhmming, and when I got to the bit about "I wouldn't trade hot coffee for their voices", he says, "Tell me about it." <mic drop> I wasn't thinking about him at. all. with any of this. I was thinking solely about women choosing to go to work, despite the fact that their husbands are earning sufficiently, yadda, yadda, yadda ... I'd completely forgotten about him in this thought-rant, and about how what he's doing is, of course, choice, but combined with necessity, and I got teary and hugged him and thanked him for what he does for us.
And anyway, if I went back to work, I wouldn't have time to make a bœuf bourguignon on a random Thursday. It's one of the most delicious "beef dishes concocted by man" says Julia Child. Better listen to Mrs. Child, y'all.

Lastly, Ada started soccer for the first time, as Paul started his 3rd 8-wk session. They both love it!

Friday, August 7, 2015

I left the children

... for a weekend in Omaha with Momma & Ginny!

It was Ginny's bridal shower, thrown by all the ladies on Ryan's side of the family. And, may I just say, they're lovely & fun, and I'm glad that they'll be in my very-extended family.

Here's how most of the weekend went down, Midwest-style, and NOLA-style.

First, the kids were in very good hands on Friday while Dylan was still at work, and I was en route and en tears. I missed them already! The village-effect of Algiers Point took over, and dear friends cared for Paul and Ada
a) at the garden for kids' weeding + snacks
b) during their Flubber Friday art class
c) for swimming (during which I was sent several precious videos I watched & re-watched)
d) for lunch
and then when Dylan picked them up, this happened:
Huge thank-you to Stacy & Rena for the heartfelt watching, swaying, swimming, feeding, and loving.

Off I flew to Omaha, where I'd been once before in a U-haul for a mere 12 hours with Dylan and Ryan while moving to MN. Needless to say, I was looking forward to seeing a little more of it and in the daylight. I met Mom and Gin at the hotel lobby for an amazing HH before heading out to dinner. Then sleeeep. Except being away in my own bed without children to wake me made absolutely zero difference to my sleep, and I woke anyway, had coffee with breakfast, and kept on keepin' on. Saturday was the shower! It was for noon. And it was the first thing, besides breakfast, that we did that day. Now, that's different than being at home, for sure. Ginny's shower was at a restaurant in the cute, cobbled Old Market quarter of Omaha, and there was a yummy spread with mimosas, a cute cake, and lots of chatting with Ryan's aunts and cousins. A lovely midday! We left the shower and walked the shops and barhopped, more than I had in, well, I dunno, all the way through dinner and we were back at the hotel around 11pm. Late! The next morning, we had Mass at the beautiful Cathedral of St. Cecilia just a little outside of the downtown. It was precisely because it was a little ways out of town that I felt a connection to the Midwest much like I had never felt before ... it all looked just like St. Paul! The sloping front yards, the architecture, the type of grass and trees. And it was so comfortable outside. Like, 72º, sunny, and breezy. Without mosquitos. No mosquitos, y'all. Of course, Mom made sure to remind me about "yeah, 6 months from now, though" ... but Dylan and I never really found it all that bad. We had a great weekend together, & I loved it ... and I didn't want to leave! 

Except for these kids and their Papa!
Papa takes the kids to the zoo and gives them ice cream for lunch. "Dad is great, he gives us chocolate cake!"
They were back in NOLA waiting for me, and once I did say goodbye to Gin and Mom, I just wanted to blink myself back - to the hot, the 90º, and, yes, the mosquitos. This is where we are, together, it's home, and I love our family.

And here's a little of their shenanigans this week, being back together.
naked driving
big shoes to fill





playing a game together, a real game
fresh outta the dryer
wearing Nana's Omaha souvenir(s)

And I finally finished a cross-stitch gift for a friend's new baby ... well, new back in September.